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We can do – Getting Married

In the Republic of Ireland the Civil registration Act 2015, permits marriage between two people regardless of gender. As spiritualists we believe that your wedding day is about you and your partner, so you should get married with the words, vows and music that you want to have.

1. Write a spiritual ceremony for your special day and/or

2. Officiate at your special day

A spiritual wedding ceremony is a non denominational ceremony and it doesn’t conform to the religious aspects of the mainstream religious beliefs. Although spiritualism is a religion in its own right, it does not have any particular god similar to other religions. There is only 2 components of the service that legally have to be fulfilled and that is:

1. Is there any lawful impediment to the marriage

2. The “I Do” vows

Everything else can be tailored to suit you and your partner, making the wedding ceremony completely about you both, which is what it should be about. Our wedding ceremony celebrants will create a ceremony with you for you and about you.

As part of the spiritual ceremony we can, if the couple choose, invite those from spirit world to be present with us to share your special day and remember those who have passed to spirit world in a special way not traditionally seen at a wedding ceremony. This is one of the main belief systems of spiritualism that we can connect with loved ones who have passed to the spirit world. We light candles beside pictures of certain loved ones that you would like to remember.

So in short it is an open book for you to write, the readings, the vows all what you want. We can also do a sand ceremony at the end of the wedding ceremony along with the unity candle or instead of it, depends on what you want. It is a lovely ceremony and you take away the vase with the colour sand with the unique sand print as a memory of your special day. Or we can do a rose ceremony, your first gift to each other after becoming a married couple.

What are the differences between a civil ceremony and a spiritual ceremony?

Spiritual Ceremony Civil Ceremony
Can I get married outdoors or in a marquee? Yes No
Can I decide on the content of my ceremony? Yes No
Can I have hymns at my ceremony? Yes No
Can I decide the length of my ceremony? Yes No
Can I get married on a Saturday, Sunday or Bank Holiday? Yes No
Can I decide the time of my ceremony? Yes No
Can I have a sand ceremony at the end of the wedding ceremony? Yes No
Do I have to give a minimum of 3 months notice to the registrar’s office? Yes Yes
Can I have my ceremony and reception indoors in the same venue? Yes Yes
Can I have my ceremony and reception outdoors in the same venue? Yes No

Ceremony Elements

Ring Warming

Our Ring Warming ceremony is a way to incorporate all of your wedding guests into your ceremony or alternatively your immediate family members and closest loved ones. This ceremony focuses on the shared intentions held for you as your guests hold your wedding rings and pass them throughout the ceremony and this would normally commence at the beginning of the ceremony. It works beautifully if you have an intimate number of people attending. Alternatively if you have a larger number this ceremony is still beautiful but would require an extra piece of music to facilitate the larger number of guest. Be sure to discuss this with your assigned solemniser.

Candle Ceremony

The candle ceremony is notably what most couples are familiar with at a wedding ceremony. This ceremony allows the light of the individual couple to be recognised before and after the legal rite. However, it is also a way to recognise the light held by those whom have had a significant impact on your life or who have been a source of guidance for you. In choosing this ceremony, couples have often highlighted parents or indeed mothers at this particular point or indeed those who have significantly been a source of illumination in their life. It can also be a way to incorporate children who bring light to your life. This ceremony is particularly moving and an effective way to signify those dearest to you.

Hand Holding and Hand Fastening

This ceremony is placed into the part of the ceremony when couples symbolically give their hand in marriage and exchange vows and or rings. In giving our hand in marriage we offer to each other our hands to help, love, support, guide, nurture and protect over the years of marriage. The Hand Holding recognises the undertaking of the promise to support guide and care for each other in the years ahead without the use of ribbons. The Hand Fastening ceremony is the same poem iterated and has its basis in Brehon Law as the oldest wedding ceremony in the world. It is Irish in origin and significantly beautiful and also the basis for the expression” tying the knot”. So when we perform this ceremony it is incredibly beautiful to incorporate those closest to you to step into that intimate space and drape a ribbon over each hand allowing for one to six people to be incorporated here. Traditional Hand Fastening includes thirteen ribbons, however, we use four. These can be a lasting momentum of your special day, as a feature of your symbolic promises made to each other amongst family and friends and are bound together into your ribbons. You do not stay tied together, only the ribbons are tied but again discuss this with your assigned Celebrant.

Rose Ceremony

This is a particularly romantic ceremony focusing on the rose as the symbol of true love. This ceremony invites the couple to remember the promises on each anniversary through the giving and receiving of a rose. It is also a way to hallmark those whom you love dearly for example, mother’s, father’s or grandparents whom can be gifted with a rose. This ceremony works beautifully when interspersed with music.

Sand Ceremony

This ceremony is a beautiful visual ceremony and particularly inclusive for children on a wedding day. Each person involved has an individual vessel of sand which are poured together into a larger vessel to symbolise the unity of two families through marriage because marriage is really about family.

This is just a small selection of the elements we can incorporate, we have also incorporated many other cultural elements like jewish glass breaking, chinese tea ceremonies, Hindu rituals and Persian rituals just to name a few.

The Process

1. Check with us to see if we are available to officiate at your wedding ceremony.

2. Contact the Registrars office a minimum of 3 months before the proposed wedding date, we recommend you do this once you have confirmed our availability.

3. We meet with you to discuss your unique ceremony. We send you sample ceremonies, vows and readings to use as templates. From here on we, along with your full input, tailor the full service to your requirements while observing the spiritual aspects to the wedding service as required by the Rites of the Spiritualist Union of Ireland.

4. We give you your ceremony script completed for your big day.

What you need to do to register your intent to marry?

To contract a valid marriage in this state the parties to the marriage must:

1. observe the marriage notification process as required by the laws of this State

2. freely consent to the marriage; and,

3. observe the marriage notification process as required by the laws of this State

The Marriage Notification Process (including documents required)

After 5th November 2007 any couple proposing to marry should begin the process by contacting their local Registration Office to make an appointment to meet the Registrar to give him/her their marriage notification.

Notifications can be taken only by prior appointment with the Registrar. While only three months’ notice is required by law, couples are advised to contact the Registrar well over three months before their intended date of marriage to ensure they can get a timely appointment.

The notification details will be entered on a computerised notification system by the Registrar on the basis of the information given by the couple. When attending the Registrar’s office in relation to the notification, the couple must also pay the notification fee and provide the Registrar with evidence of their name, address, age, marital status and nationality.

The notification details will be entered on a computerised notification system by the Registrar on the basis of the information given by the couple. When attending the Registrar’s office in relation to the notification, the couple must also pay the notification fee and provide the Registrar with evidence of their name, address, age, marital status and nationality.

In general, all couples will be asked to produce:

1. Passport as ID

2. Birth Certificate

3. If either party is divorced, original final decrees in respect of all previous divorces

4. If widowed, death certificate of the previous spouse and the civil marriage certificate for their first marriage

5. Their PPS Numbers (where either or both of the parties have one)

6. Fee for notification

Additional documentation may be required in some cases, such as where a divorce has been granted outside the State and it must be determined whether it is recognised under Irish law. The Registrar will advise what is required in each case.

PLEASE NOTE THAT THE ABOVE LIST IS NOT EXHAUSTIVE. ALL COUPLES SHOULD CHECK DIRECTLY WITH THE REGISTRAR, BEFORE THEIR APPOINTMENT, TO ENSURE THAT THEY HAVE ALL THE REQUIRED DOCUMENTATION.

In addition to their personal particulars, the couple will be requested to provide details in relation to their proposed marriage such as the intended date of marriage,whether they require a civil or religious ceremony,the names and dates of birth of their witnesses, and details of the proposed solemniser and venue.

Hi Vinny, Well i can safely say that Saturday was the best day of our lives and the ceremony that we had just set the whole tone. You settled us down from the very start, calmed the nerves and made everything so easy. Billy in particular wants to thank you for keeping him calm while he was waiting (even though i was early!)

Vinny-Whelan1Vincent Whelan OSUI

Hi Robert. Just wanted to drop you a quick email to thank you again for everything on Saturday, and all the advice and guidance you gave us in the run-up. We couldn’t be happier with the way it all went and so many people were very complimentary of the way you conducted the ceremony.

Rob-Wright1Robert Anthony Jude Wright OSUI