As spiritualists we believe that your wedding day is about you and your partner, so you should get married with the words, vows and music that you want to have.
1. write a spiritual ceremony for your special day and/or
2. officiate at your special day
A spiritual wedding ceremony is a non denominational ceremony and it doesn’t conform to the religious aspects of the mainstream religious beliefs. Although spiritualism is a religion in its own right, it does not have any particular god similar to other religions. There is only 2 components of the service that legally have to be fulfilled and that is:
1 ) Is there any lawful impediment to the marriage
2 ) The “I Do” vows
Everything else can be tailored to suit you and your partner, making the wedding ceremony completely about you both, which is what it should be about.
As part of the spiritual ceremony we can, if the couple choose, invite those from spirit world to be present with us to share your special day and remember those who have passed to spirit world in a special way not traditionally seen at a wedding ceremony. This is one of the main belief systems of spiritualism that we can connect with loved ones who have passed to the spirit world. We light candles beside pictures of certain loved ones that you would like to remember.
So in short it is an open book for you to write, the readings, the vows all what you want. We can also do a sand ceremony at the end of the wedding ceremony along with the unity candle or instead of it, depends on what you want. It is a lovely ceremony and you take away the vase with the colour sand with the unique sand print as a memory of your special day. Or we can do a rose ceremony, your first gift to each other after becoming a married couple.
What are the differences between a civil ceremony and a spiritual ceremony?
|Spiritual Ceremony||Civil Ceremony|
|Can I get married outdoors or in a marquee?||Yes||No|
|Can I decide on the content of my ceremony?||Yes||No|
|Can I have hymns at my ceremony?||Yes||No|
|Can I decide the length of my ceremony?||Yes||No|
|Can I get married on a Saturday, Sunday or Bank Holiday?||Yes||No|
|Can I decide the time of my ceremony?||Yes||No|
|Can I have a sand ceremony at the end of the wedding ceremony?||Yes||No|
|Do I have to give a minimum of 3 months notice to the registrar’s office?||Yes||Yes|
|Can I have my ceremony and reception indoors in the same venue?||Yes||Yes|
|Can I have my ceremony and reception outdoors in the same venue?||Yes||No|
1. Check with us to see if we are available to officiate at your wedding ceremony.
2. Contact the Registrars office a minimum of 3 months before the proposed wedding date, we recommend you do this once you have confirmed our availability.
3. We meet with you to discuss your unique ceremony. We send you sample ceremonies, vows and readings to use as templates. From here on we, along with your full input, tailor the full service to your requirements while observing the spiritual aspects to the wedding service as required by the Rites of the Spiritualist Union of Ireland.
4. We give you your booklet in soft copy for you to send to you
What you need to do to register your intent to marry?
To contract a valid marriage in this state the parties to the marriage must:
- have the capacity to marry each other;
- freely consent to the marriage; and,
- observe the marriage notification process as required by the laws of this State
The Marriage Notification Process (including documents required)
After 5th November 2007 any couple proposing to marry should begin the process by contacting their local Registration Office to make an appointment to meet the Registrar to give him/her their marriage notification.
Notifications can be taken only by prior appointment with the Registrar. While only three months’ notice is required by law, couples are advised to contact the Registrar well over three months before their intended date of marriage to ensure they can get a timely appointment.
The notification details will be entered on a computerised notification system by the Registrar on the basis of the information given by the couple. When attending the Registrar’s office in relation to the notification, the couple must also pay the notification fee of €200 and provide the Registrar with evidence of their name, address, age, marital status and nationality.
In general, all couples will be asked to produce:-
- Passport as ID
- Birth Certificate
- If either party is divorced, original final decrees in respect of all previous divorces
- If widowed, death certificate of the previous spouse and the civil marriage certificate for their first marriage
- Their PPS Numbers (where either or both of the parties have one)
- Fee of €200 as above
Additional documentation may be required in some cases, such as where a divorce has been granted outside the State and it must be determined whether it is recognised under Irish law. The Registrar will advise what is required in each case.
PLEASE NOTE THAT THE ABOVE LIST IS NOT EXHAUSTIVE. ALL COUPLES SHOULD CHECK DIRECTLY WITH THE REGISTRAR, BEFORE THEIR APPOINTMENT, TO ENSURE THAT THEY HAVE ALL THE REQUIRED DOCUMENTATION.
In addition to their personal particulars, the couple will be requested to provide details in relation to their proposed marriage such as the intended date of marriage,whether they require a civil or religious ceremony,the names and dates of birth of their witnesses, and details of the proposed solemniser and venue.